I’m in the middle of reading The Five Families Vineyard Series, this super sexy and awesome collection of romance novels that takes place in wine country. It’s written by Kelly Kay, who definitely knows something about the sultry side of wine country life! These books are hot, steamy and completely captivating.
The main character is this super-chic city girl, Elle, who at her core is really a down and dirty country girl. Kelly does a great job revealing these different sides, and showing her in distinct detail. WE learn what she’s wearing (with some great brand names of course) as well as the different makeup brands and colors she is wearing. We also learn how each look makes her feel, which is really compelling. How we dress is one of the easiest ways to express ourselves, ALL the forms of ourselves and who we want to show up as on a particular day. Regardless, how she shows up is what makes her feel strong, confident and -- hell yeah -- absolutely sexy.
I think doing things that make you feel sexy, in a way that’s truly authentic to you, is just as important as any other form of self care. In a traditional sense, we may be motivated to look good so we can attract new partners or just keep looking attractive to the partners we have. But I think it’s important to realize that being sexy, feeling sexy, and looking sexy should not be about what someone else thinks or wants. It should be about how YOU want to project that sexy version of yourself! That gives you the real power, that magnetism you give off because someone else can tell you are projecting the most confident and alluring version of yourself. It’s important to preserve that energy at any age, and at any stage in a relationship!
So, what do I do to feel sexy? I’m not saying this is the best way, it’s just my way ;-)
Self-care & hygiene:
I take care of my skin, indulge in my body scrubs, lotions, etc. I love caring for myself.
Makeup:
I used to work as a make-up artist, so my daily look was full-on face, lashes and all! I loved that then, but now running a gym and training 6 days a week, makeup days are few and far between. Still, when we head out to dinner or meet up with friends, it’s so fun to do it up! A full lip, some smoky eyes -- lookout!
Jiu-jitsu/Fitness:
It’s funny, but after good workouts or being on the mat all day, I feel my strongest and that makes me feel sexy. That sense of empowerment makes me feel so darn good. #strongissexy for sure!
Being an Entrepreneur:
I love knowing I’m in control of my business and work. I love getting and staying organized and getting things done. That’s a really powerful feeling, and you know what that translates to!
Healthy Living:
Eating right, staying in shape, getting plenty of sleep and water -- it sounds cliche but when I’m healthy, when my body feels good and my mind is clear, that’s a great start to feeling sexy.
Clothing:
This one’s easy. I mean, some jean cutoffs or my favorite leather pants? Or my favorite Lilly Pulitzer dress? My man doesn’t know what hit him. And of course, I have a drawer with plenty of silk, satin and lace. Sometimes I even let him pick. ;-)
That’s what works for me. What makes you feel your most confident, strong and sexy? Being your most attractive can give you all kinds of irresistible power. What do you do to make it happen?